There are two paths in life…
Our future is up to us
Our future is up to us. You can take two paths in life:
· Your own
· Or the one others choose for you.
Which path are you going to take?
Once upon a time, I took the path chosen for me and it made me very unhappy, caused me to feel suicidal because I didn’t fit it and made myself wrong because of it.
Then something happened.
When you go low enough to take your own life, there is nowhere lower to go and sometimes the utter darkness, helps you to find your light again.
I ran and ran and ran, and my body got very tired and achy and with the London marathon done, I turned to nutrition and yoga, which led me to Reiki and into Ayurveda and all of this helped to bring me to my heart and give me a pause between thoughts so that I could actually hear it for the first time in a very long time.
Slowly, very slowly, I learned to love myself again, celebrating my differences, feeling grateful for not fitting in and finding another way more aligned with the whole of me - honouring my own soul path.
Increasingly I’ve noticed when I make choices for others and not for myself, that I can become a little disgruntled, tired, thrown off balance, even if it’s as simple as agreeing to a play date for the sake of the boys.
I don’t do that now.
I don’t worry what others think about me as I once did, I don’t feel guilty or ashamed for putting my needs first. Some will label it selfish, but I know that life is short and that wasting our time doing things we don’t want to do is going to cause stress and shorten it more. And if I’m not contented, the boys won’t be either – the dynamics of a family thrive with harmonious parents.
At the end of the day we will all die and what right have any of us to judge others for how they’re spending their time. More often than not, we’re just judging ourselves anyway, and they’re judging us based on their own inner narrative and conditioned standards.
Our future is up to us and our every choice impacts it.
It’s interesting when you delve deeper into the choices you are making and realise so many are made for the benefit of others. You notice how much you sell out on yourself and create your own disharmony because of a sense of duty, obligation or caring what others think. Whole lives can be lived for others.
Which path are you taking, yours or the one someone else has chosen for you?
Love Emma x
