I started contracting during the facial treatment. I didn’t realise what it was at the time, I just thought it was some cramping. The sensation increased during the evening to the point that I found it difficult to sleep.
I was jubilant, I was finally contracting! I had longed to experience this sensation, ever since it was denied to me with the planned delivery of Elijah three years earlier. This time around, I had wanted the baby to choose it’s birthing date, and here it was, making that choice.
I loved every moment of that evening; it was one of the most intimate experiences of my life. I shall always treasure the insight it provided, of my breath, of sensation, and of the opportunity to be joyfully present. Pain brings this gift to us, and here I was able to rejoice with it.
I spent some time on the sofa, dipping in and out of Facebook, aware of the time changing because the new day brought with it new birthdays. I shall never forget that, because I felt so pleased with myself being one of the first people to congratulate a friend on her birthday.
When I had tired of that and the sensation demanded otherwise, I wrapped myself in a blanket and spent time outside in the darkness of the night with the waning moon and the stars above me.
I squatted on the Earth where Elijah’s tree grows with his placenta nourishing it, and where I’d bled prior to conceiving this new life growing inside me, and felt an incredible oneness with everything. It felt poignant, as if I was stepping into a portal that connected me to the mysteries of this world.
And then the moment came as I always hoped it would, when all I wanted to do was sway my hips and dance.
I danced with the moon shining her light over me as I held my baby within me. Together we danced around the garden and I couldn’t stop smiling because I was on my own and I was having the most amazing time.
I felt overwhelming love for my baby and for Elijah and E asleep inside, and for the world, and this oneness that goes as quickly as it comes. I felt truly aligned.
I danced with the moon until I knew it was time to go inside again.
Here I lay in the bath, cleansed by the water, focusing on breath and sensation and on and on it went.
At some point during the early hours I released my mucous plug and while I was aware that if I was in labour I was meant to telephone the ward immediately, I felt that I didn’t need to do that just yet.
All fear had finally gone and there was this sense that perhaps I could just wing it. Perhaps I could just stay at home like this and see what happened, see whether I could birth my breech baby all on my own. I still hadn’t given up on that hope. But I was aware that if it was meant to be, it would be, and that the baby would arrive quickly.
However, by 5.30am there was no baby and I began to realise that I had to do something about my situation. E was awake by then and I noticed that the discharge had started to change colour, it wasn’t a clear/pinkish colour anymore, so I knew it was now time to telephone the hospital.
With E awake the sensations felt stronger because I wasn’t able to be in my space with my breath in the same way as I had been on my own. This was an insight to me, the potential need to be alone during the birthing experience. Not that I had that opportunity because having telephoned the ward they told me to come in immediately.
With Elijah now awake, the three of us stepped out of the house into the darkness of the night, and there up in the sky ahead of us was the waning moon and the sign of a cross in the sky, made from two airline streams. It felt incredibly auspicious and I knew in my heart of hearts that now was the time, this was a sign, this was really happening.
We dropped Elijah off at E’s Mum and went to the hospital where I discovered that its rather tricky to walk when you’re contracting at the same time!
It’s also rather tricky to lie still and be scanned. But alas that is what happened and it showed that yes, I was contracting and a decision would soon need to be made about delivery because the specialists didn’t want me going into full blown labour and running the risk of delivering a breech baby.
A swipe was taken to test for an infection and I was allocated a bed on the ward. The specialist felt that one way or another there was a high chance that the baby would be delivered that day. If the tests showed that I had an infection, then I would need to have the baby delivered that morning.
If I didn’t have an infection there was a chance that now it was light outside the contractions would stop and I would be monitored – the longer the baby was in utero the better for his/her development.
I was still talking about breech delivery because there was still hope. There was still a chance that the contractions would ease and I would have time.
I was aware that the specialist I had first seen when I was initially pregnant was working the ward that morning and I was adamant that I didn’t want to see him. He had told me I would be high risk and would likely deliver by Caesarean section and here I was about to do that.
It didn’t seem to matter anymore. By then I’d finished reading the “The Universe has Your Back” and my mantra was ‘love not fear’. And here I was in hospital very aware that yes, the Universe had my back, and what was meant to be was meant to be.
I had to surrender.
And then came the opportunity.
My lovely female specialist was now on duty and she came to see me with the specialist who we’d seen earlier that morning to tell us that I had an infection.
She took my hand and told me that she knew this wasn’t what I wanted to hear, but there really was no choice now, the baby had to be delivered that morning by Caesarean Section.
I laughed because one way or another I was destined to have a repeat Caesarean Section. The Goddess of the Moon was dancing and now I finally chose to dance with her.
There was no choice. There was nothing to fight any longer. The Universe had my back. Love not fear.
And there it was. I finally accepted my reality. There would be no home birth. There would be no spiritual experience in the shower as I attempted to birth my baby all on my own. There would be none of that.
But what there was, was far more profound in many ways. Because I was being asked to step beyond the fear and my idea of how things should be, to experience the spiritual in it. This was the lesson that I had needed to learn and this brought with it the spiritual experience and opportunity for growth that I had always dreamt of, just it was presenting itself in a way I had not expected…but that’s the way of the Universe. Our dreams always come true but not as we expect them to, that too is a lesson in surrender and acceptance.